5 brutal questions to ask yourself
Author: Staff Writer
Has there ever been a better time for introspection?
According to research in the European Journal of Social Psychology, it only takes 66 days to form new habits and change your life. Two months to attain a new life sounds easy enough, right? The key, however, is to identify habits you truly value and believe in, habits you are willing to work for.
Two months can be a very long time if your heart is not in it.
To help you make meaningful changes to your life, ask yourself these 5 brutal questions that will change the way you think about what you’re doing with your life, health, relationships and your career.
1. Are Your Dreams Small, and is That Okay?
Gurus often preach that you should dream big and follow your dreams. But, the truth is, many of us don’t have that one big dream. Sometimes your dream can be as simple as spending more time with your family or starting a small business on the side. Of course, there is nothing wrong with dreaming big, but if you don’t have a big dream that you can work towards, why not look at how you can improve your current life by making small changes. For example, if you want to spend more time with your children, you can perhaps go on family excursions or hikes, wake up earlier for a daily family breakfast or chat to your boss about flexi hours. Small changes can make a big difference in the long run.
2. What and Who Are You Wasting Time On?
When you are 80 years old, you are not going to remember Saturday afternoons spent on your smart phone or with friends you actually, deep down, don’t enjoy. What else won’t you remember? These are probably the things that are wasting your time. They keep you from doing the things that truly matter, like spending more time on meaningful relationships, goals and experiences. Identify the activities and people keeping you from experiencing memorable moments and manage how much time these things take, rather add hours to the things that add value.
3. If You Died Tomorrow, Would Your Loved Ones Truly Feel that Loss?
Full schedules often keep us from spending time with our loved ones. But, did you know, people who look back on their lives rate the time spent with loved ones as most meaningful and the part of their lives that they are most proud of. This is according to a Harvard study that followed 268 male students since 1939. According to the study, these male students valued love the most at the end of their lives. Don’t neglect building and maintaining special relationships, invest in them like you would a retirement annuity. Ask yourself how you can make more of a positive impact in the lives of those you love.
4. Do People Hate You? Do You Hate People?
Perhaps it’s your need to be perfect or to be right all the time. Perhaps you need to let go of your past or perhaps you need to finally forgive that person who has wronged you. A study in the Journal of Behavioural Medicine found that nursing negative feelings increases your stress levels and can shorten your life. Letting go of negative feelings like unforgiveness can help ensure happiness and longevity.
5. You’re Already Dying, Are You Speeding Up the Process?
Healthy habits are good for your physical, emotional, and mental health and can make a big difference in how you feel. If you are not exercising enough or if you don’t have healthy eating habits, making these changes can improve your energy and happiness levels and even boost your confidence. Make your health a priority to ensure a happier and healthier life.